Valentine’s Day is still a couple of weeks away, but you know what they say about being proactive—if you stay ready, you don’t have to get ready. Why wait until February 13 to start shouting “God, when?” when you can take charge and find the love of your life right now?

Follow this foolproof guide and secure a temporary situationship before February 14.

Pretend you’re a gym enthusiast

Everyone knows gyms are where the hottest singles hang out in January, trying to lose the weight gain from Detty December and stick to their “New Year, New Me” resolutions. So, dust off those trainers and sign up. You don’t have to actually work out—just look busy while scanning for potential baes. Bonus points if you “accidentally” bump into someone while pretending to lift weights.

Post more thirst traps

If the love of your life isn’t sliding into your DMs, you’re simply not posting enough. Show some skin, use a filter, and caption it with something vague like, “Looking forward to February.” If that doesn’t get people shooting their shot, then maybe it’s time to move to the next step.

Rekindle something with an ex

So what if they cheated? Or ghosted you? Or still owe you ₦20k? The past is the past, and the point is, you’re not trying to spend February 14 alone. Send a “Happy New Year” text, and see where it leads. A temporary situationship is better than no situationship at all.

Download ALL the dating apps

If you’re not swiping at least 100 times daily, you’re not trying hard enough. Bumble, Tinder, Hinge, Grindr, Badoo—download them all and say yes to every “let’s see where this goes” message. Who cares about compatibility? You’ll figure that out after securing your Valentine’s Day high.

Shoot your shot with everyone in your office

Workplace romance isn’t ideal, but desperate times call for desperate measures. Just pick someone, compliment their lunch choices for a week, and ask them out for drinks. Who knows? They might be just as tired of spending every Valentine’s Day as a single pringle just like you. 

Take what belongs to Caesar

Listen, sometimes the love of your life is just temporarily with someone else. It’s not your fault their partner doesn’t know how to treat them right. Do your research, slide into their DMs with precision, and show them why you’re the soulmate they never knew they needed. It’s not stealing; it’s a redistribution of love to where it belongs.

Manifest your bae

At this point, if all else fails, it’s time to put your faith in the universe. Light a scented candle, write down your ideal partner’s qualities, and chant, “My February 14 boo is coming” three times. We can’t promise it’ll work, but it’s worth the try.

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Now that the love and light of the holiday season has fizzled away, can we all agree on one thing? Nigerians need a masterclass on the art of gifting. Why else would someone think it’s okay to wrap up an old bundle of Ankara fabric that’s been marinating in camphor for years? Why are you giving it out if you won’t go near it?

We asked a few people to share the worst gifts they received during the holidays, and their stories are proof that Nigerians are not serious people.

Bukky*

Since November, I’d been dropping gift exchange hints in the family group chat, and everyone agreed my suggestions weren’t bad ideas. So, I bought gifts for two of my favourite siblings, expecting them to get me something in return. I kept returning to the Christmas tree to see if my name was there, but nothing.

I held on to my gifts, assuming they were waiting for New Year’s. But when nothing showed up, I reluctantly gave my siblings their gifts. Everyone made casual jokes about how I took gifting so seriously. Moments like that make me wish I was born into a different family.

Derinsola*

I know my boyfriend meant well, but I can’t lie—I don’t like his Christmas gift. It was a designer bag from one of those high-end stores on the Island with an end-of-year sales promo. I think he remembered me mentioning the bag earlier in the year, which was sweet.

But the colour he picked was entirely off, and the bag had signs of wear and tear. It’s been sitting in my room since I unwrapped it because I don’t know what to do with it. Knowing my boyfriend, it’s only a matter of time before he notices I haven’t used it. I don’t want to seem ungrateful, but I also can’t pretend I like it.

Tunde*

To be fair, I didn’t go all out for my Secret Santa either—I gave a manicure and pedicure set worth about ₦10k. But the Ankara I got in return smelled so bad, even as a rag it stunk up my flat. I’ve tied it up in nylon and plan to give it to scavengers when they come around.

I’d have been upset if this had happened six years ago. But I’ve been in the corporate world long enough to know that Secret Santa is a scam. Never spend too much; the effort is rarely mutual.

Tola*

My big mummy hadn’t been to Nigeria in five years, so when she announced she was coming for Christmas, she asked what we wanted as gifts. I didn’t trust her taste, so I said, “Just a wristwatch.”

How could anyone go wrong with a wristwatch, right? Well, she gave me a Ben 10 wristwatch. Does she think I’m 10 years old? Anyway, I tossed it in my wardrobe. I’m sure it’ll come in handy as a birthday gift for one of my nieces or nephews.

Michael*

I’m not a pet person, but my cousin thought gifting me a kitten was a good idea. Don’t get me wrong; the kitten was adorable, but between work stress and Lagos traffic, the last thing I needed was to babysit a hyperactive pet.

When I asked why she chose a kitten, she said, “I thought it’d help you relax.” Relax how? Long story short, I sold the kitten and used the money to buy a power bank. My cousin doesn’t know yet sha.

Chika*

My office does a Secret Santa every year, and somehow, I always get paired with someone unserious. Last year, my colleague gave me a mug with my office nickname. I don’t even drink tea or coffee.

Meanwhile, I went all out and got her a skincare set because she was always complaining about her skin being dry. The worst part? She said, “I thought you’d find it funny.” I didn’t.

Alex*

It was my first Christmas at this fancy company, so I assumed Secret Santa would be top-tier. I bought my recipient an air fryer. But when I got my gift at the party, I knew disaster was waiting.

From the wrapping, I could tell it was a vase. I told myself, “Maybe it’s antique and worth a lot.” Nope. It was the most basic vase ever when I unwrapped it at home. I’m pretty sure it came from a declutter page. Secret Santa isn’t for me.

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What’s your earliest memory of each other?

Henry: It was in 2018, at a wedding where Joy was a bridesmaid, and I was a guest. We sat at the same table and she made a joke about her dress being too tight. I laughed so hard I spilled wine on myself. There was a charm about her that just pulled me in.

What made her joke that funny?

Henry: It was the delivery and how freely it came out. I think that’s stuff you only say to your girls, not to random guests at a party.

Joy: That dress was suffocating me. I saw Henry laughing after my comment and thought, “He seems like a fun guy.” Later that night, the MC dragged us to the dance floor for a competition, even though Henry swore he couldn’t dance.

Henry: It’s the truth—I still can’t dance. But we had fun.

Did you spend the rest of the wedding together?

Henry: Not really. We talked and danced for a bit, but nothing deep. We talked about Nigerian tailors, the food, and the bride, who was a mutual friend. Also, she had bridesmaids duties, so she kept disappearing. 

Joy: He asked for my number at the end of the night. I thought to myself, “Hmmm, would it kill Lagos men to talk and leave it at that?” But I gave him the number. I figured I could block or ignore him if things got weird. 

So, when did you contact her, Henry?

Henry: The moment I got home. I wanted to be sure she gave me the correct number, and I was curious to see if she had the same energy online.

Joy: I was close to ignoring him because I was exhausted when I got home. But he kicked things off with a string of unhinged stickers, and as a WhatsApp sticker collector myself, I knew he had a sense of humour. We texted a little bit that night, then every week after that. At first, it was just small talk as we slowly got closer. I realised I liked him when he started calling me his “go-to for good vibes.”

Henry: I liked her even before she realised it. She seemed thoughtful and really present. She cared deeply for those around her, which I first noticed at the wedding, but I chalked it up to her bridesmaids duties. 

One day, I casually mentioned I had a terrible cold at work. Joy showed up at my place that night with a bowl of pepper soup and painkillers. That was when I knew I wanted more with her.

Sounds like you both clicked very early

Joy: Yes, we did. The early days of knowing each other and becoming an item were really good. We spent so much time together—going on dates, hanging out with friends. It was fun and easy because Henry didn’t try to control my carefree nature. I’ve dated people who said I was too much or not ladylike enough. But Henry accepted me for who I was.

Henry: We were inseparable. My friends and family members also loved her. Her infectious energy lights up a room and attracts people to her. I didn’t have to do much to bring her into my social circle.

I feel like I’ve missed something. When did you guys become official?

Henry: Six or seven months after we met. We were both single, and our family and friends already assumed we were together because we showed up to gatherings and posted the cutest photos. We didn’t try to correct the impression that we weren’t lovers, but it might have sped things up.

Joy: I’d been single for a year and some months, and I think I fell for him because of how spontaneous everything was. I’m intentional with everything, including my love life. But when I met Henry, I wasn’t searching like I’d been for previous relationships. The spontaneity made it easy to go with the flow and say yes to him when he asked. 

Right. Seeing that the early days were sweet, was there ever a moment you noticed something that made you pause?

Henry: Yes, but it wasn’t immediate. At first, everything was fine, but I started hearing things from mutual friends about how Joy owed them money. I didn’t think much of it because it felt like normal life stuff.

What do you mean by “normal life stuff”?

Henry: You know, like running short on cash before payday or borrowing to cover emergencies. I figured everyone has those moments. But it became concerning when I noticed how often it was happening. Friends would make side comments or joke about her borrowing habits, and it started to feel like more than occasional lapses.

Joy, what were you borrowing money for?

Joy: Mostly for my side hustle—an events business. Sometimes I’d take loans to pay vendors or secure venues, thinking the next client payment would cover it. Other times, it was for personal things—family emergencies and other bills. I always thought I could manage it until things spiralled out of control.

Did Henry know about this while you were dating?

Joy: I didn’t want Henry to think less of me, so I made a conscious effort to not involve him.  I never borrowed from him or shared that part of my life with him.

Henry: Hearing about it from other people made it worse. I felt like she was hiding things from me. I couldn’t comprehend the situation because I hardly turned down her financial requests when she asked. She was also on a ₦50k monthly allowance, which I insisted on giving her, even though she said she wasn’t comfortable placing that kind of financial burden on me. If she needed money for her business or personal stuff, I’d have happily given her without expecting her to pay back. 

How did that impact your relationship?

Henry: It was a source of constant arguments. When I heard something, I’d try to bring it up gently, and she’d get defensive. It wasn’t even about the money — it was the secrecy and how it made me feel like I didn’t fully know the person I was with.

I couldn’t understand why it was even happening. She had a good paying job, her parents are above average, and on top of that, she had a boyfriend who was willing to give if she asked. 

Joy, how did you feel when Henry brought it up?

Joy: I felt ashamed. I knew I had a problem, but I didn’t want it to affect us, so I kept that side of my life away from him. When he confronted me, I went defensive every time because it felt like a personal attack, even though his heart was in the right place. 

Suddenly, my parents’ and siblings’ warnings replayed in my head. They’d insisted I talk to Henry about it when we got serious, but we had something good. I didn’t see the need to sour it up. Moreover, unlike previous partners who I’d borrowed from, I never borrowed from Henry. This was progress in my books. 

Did you ever think it could threaten your relationship in any way? 

Joy: Deep down, yes. But I convinced myself that we’d be fine as long as I didn’t borrow from him or make it his problem. Looking back now, I see how naive that was. Even if I didn’t borrow directly from Henry, it still seeped into our relationship.

Henry: And that happened in some of the ugliest ways possible. Some mutual friends started calling her “Debbie” and I didn’t get it at first.

One day, a mutual friend texted me saying, “Tell Debbie to pay up,” and I was determined to get to the root of the matter. I didn’t care that it meant getting into a fight with her.

Was that your first big fight?

Joy: It was. I hated that it was about money, and even worse, my borrowing habits.

Henry: After I confronted her, she got defensive and tried to play the victim, saying I should be on her side regardless of whatever accusations. It didn’t matter that she was ruining our reputation and making people say ugly stuff behind us.

Joy: I cared about those things, but I was also helpless. The ordeal was overwhelming, and I felt like I’d failed myself yet again. All the spiritual interventions, therapy sessions and attempts to better myself—all down the drain. 

I’m sorry. Did this fight lead to a turning point in your relationship?

Henry: Not entirely, but it planted the seed for our breakup. The final straw was when Joy borrowed from a loan shark and defaulted. They showed up at my office and caused a scene. I can’t describe how humiliating that was.

Joy: That day was my rock bottom. I realised my actions didn’t just affect me, they  also hurt the people I cared about.

Henry: After the loan shark incident, I asked for a break to cool off, but what should have been a few days break became weeks, then months. Joy didn’t make any attempt to reach out, and I just left it at that. 

Joy: I wasn’t sure how he would react if I reached out. After the loan shark event, he didn’t try to have a discussion or register his displeasure. He just went silent, and in my head, I was sure he was done with me. 

I’m not sure he remembers, but the way he asked for a break reinforced the thoughts I had about him being embarrassed of me.

I’m curious. How did you both handle the breakup?

Henry: I buried myself in work and tried to move on. I dated a bit, but nothing serious.

Joy: It was a wake-up call for me. I started therapy again and took steps to manage my finances better. I dated other people as well, but I felt like Henry was the one who got away. We were perfect, didn’t have any problems in the relationship except my personal issues, and I knew deep in my heart that I’d give it a chance if he ever asked again. 

But we had no contact for two years.

So, how did you two reconnect?

Joy: In July 2023, we bumped into each other at another friend’s wedding i. I suspected he was going to be there, and I promised myself to keep things cordial regardless of the energy I got from him.

But my courage flew out the window when he approached to say hi. I became nervous, but I managed to apologise and tell him about my progress.

Henry: I’d seen her a few times since our breakup but avoided her. Once, I saw her at a mall and left for a different one. 

I knew she was going to be at the wedding when I got the invite. I considered turning down the invite, but I was also itching to talk to her. I could see she had changed, she seemed more grounded, and she was eager to talk about her progress with her money problems. Speaking again felt like old times.

What happened after you met at the wedding??

Joy: He checked in the following day, much to my surprise.  I didn’t expect him to follow up so quickly. 

At first, our conversations were casual—exchanging updates and catching up on life. About a week later, we decided to hang out for lunch, and it was like no time had passed. The difference this time was that we had a lot more honesty between us. 

Henry: We eased into things with frequent calls before meeting up for lunch a week later. I didn’t want to rush or complicate things, so I kept it light.  That said, spending time with her reminded me of everything I loved about her. As we continued hanging out, old memories returned, and everything felt natural again.

I see. What’s the situation with you two now?

Joy: We’re taking things slow. I was seeing someone when we reconnected in July, and I didn’t think Henry would be keen on a second chance. But I broke it off because I see something long-term with Henry.

Henry: It’s hard to deny her growth. She has a level of honesty and accountability now that makes me see her in an entirely different light. I still feel strongly about Joy and I believe we all deserve a second chance. 

Sweet. How are you helping her stay on track, Henry?

Henry: Therapy has been a game changer for sure; I make sure she doesn’t miss her sessions. I’m also a lot more involved in helping her budget, set financial goals, and only borrow when absolutely necessary. I’m her official accountability partner.

Neat. On a scale of 1 to 10, how would you rate your love life?

Henry: I’d say a 7. We’re rebuilding, but we’re in a good place.

Joy: Same here. It’s not perfect, but it feels like we’re moving in the right direction.

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Romantic love had its glory days, but let’s be honest, it’s 2025, and we have bigger fish to fry.  Have you seen the dollar to naira rate? Or have you forgotten now’s the time to get to work if you want to build generational wealth?

Listen, if you’ve been tossing and turning, wondering whether to give up on the idea of finding true love, this is your sign to move on and focus on greater things. 

Romantic love is hard labour disguised as soft work

You’re spending money on dates, stressing over anniversary dates, and waiting up all night to text them back. Isn’t it funny how people say “love is easy” but then hit you with “relationships require work” in the same breath? Which one should we believe, dears?

The ROI? Negative

You put in time, money, emotions, and even data bundles just to be ghosted or, worse, hit with “It’s not you, it’s me.” All that effort only to be added to a group chat as “The one we don’t talk about.” No, thanks.

Who needs romantic love when there’s love at home?

Your family members won’t cheat on you, lie about their whereabouts, or leave you on read. TBH, they might, but it’s not that deep with them, right? Familial love is consistent, dependable, and always there when you need it. Romantic love could never.

Avoiding family drama is self-care

There’s nothing worse than introducing someone to your family only for your aunt to ask, “Is this one serious or like the last one?” Let’s save ourselves the embarrassment and focus on our careers instead.

Soft life is easier without relationship problems

Imagine sleeping peacefully, knowing no partner is mad at you for not texting “goodnight.” This is the soft life we’re talking about, free of unnecessary guilt trips and relationship arguments.

All love ends the same way: By force or by fire

The way we see it, you’ll either break up or grow old together and argue about who should spend an entire month with your children. Either way, does it sound like fun? Be honest.

Friendship is the real love story anyway

Your friends are the ones who’ve been holding it down since the first heartbreak. Why are we not putting more energy into friendships? Let’s normalise going on baecations with our besties. Romantic love is so 2024.

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It’s January, and your IJGB (I Just Got Back) bae is back in the abroad. What was supposed to be a “no strings attached” December fling has turned into you catching feelings they’re probably not aware of. 

Usually, this is where most December flings fizzle out, but not on your watch. If you’re determined to keep their interest alive, here’s how to make them miss you so much they’ll be booking the next flight back.

Remind them why they fell for you

Don’t let them forget the elite experience you put them through during Detty December. Send them cute throwback photos of your time together, or randomly text, “Remember how you kept purging after drinking roadside kunu?” A little nostalgia is your secret weapon.

And play the “Hard to Get” card

Listen, nothing keeps someone hooked like a little mystery. Don’t be too available. Let them wonder what you’re up to in Lagos. Post cryptic WhatsApp statuses like “Outside later?” or “Who’s picking me up today?” They’ll be dying to know who’s in the picture.

Speak their love language (virtually)

Find out what their love language is and cater to it. Is it words of affirmation? Send them texts like, “You’re killing it over there; I’m so proud of you.” Acts of service? Help them find a plug for the Nigerian food they’re craving. Show them that distance isn’t a barrier for you.

Drop hints about your growing options

IJGB flings are built on competition. Now that they’re back abroad, remind them you’re still in demand. Casually mention someone who bought you lunch or took you out for drinks. Don’t overdo it, though; just enough to keep them on their toes.

Flirt like your life depends on it

Remember how you had them hooked during the Detty December rush? Bring that energy back. Send them random texts like, “I miss how you laugh at my jokes,” or “When are you coming back to finish what we started?” or send them thirst traps. IJGBs love a good ego boost.

Start planning their next trip back to Nigeria

Listen, you have to be proactive here. If you leave it to them, they’ll probably not return to Nigeria until the next Detty December rush, and that’s enough time for them to move on to the next thing. Suggest places you both didn’t visit during December, or hint at fun activities you’ll do together next time. Make the idea of seeing you again too exciting to resist.

Save the drama

Nothing kills interest faster than unnecessary stress. Resist the urge to ask, “Where is this going?” or send a “So you’ve forgotten me now?” text. Let things flow naturally, and let them realise they can’t live without you.

Have a life outside them

Here’s the twist: while trying to keep them hooked, ensure you’re living your best life, too. Post pictures of yourself enjoying Lagos life, hanging out with friends, or even starting new hobbies. Let them see they’re just an option and not your final destination.

We might sound like a broken record hammering on Love Life stories that take you through varying degrees of “God, when” and “God forbid,” but trust us—you’ll love our playlist this time. These love stories from 2024 felt almost too good to be true, leaving readers smiling, swooning, and occasionally gasping. If you’re ready to give love a shot in 2025, a lesson or ten is waiting for you here.

Love Life: Our Early Days Were Like “Love in Tokyo”

Eseosa and Amara’s story is what happens when intentional dating meets a couple who genuinely enjoy each other’s company. Their quarterly relationship review system had readers taking notes, while their “Love in Tokyo” moments reminded us that sometimes, love really does feel like a rom-com.

Love Life: We’re Proof Being Gay Isn’t All About Sex

This story flipped stereotypes and showed our readers what building a partnership rooted in deep friendship is like. From navigating societal assumptions to keeping their love a secret from family, this story was a masterclass in resilience, mutual respect, and the softer sides of queer love.

Love Life: Diarrhoea Almost Ruined Our First Date

This was one of those love life stories that got our readers wishing for a rom-com adaptation. Shola and Damilola’s first date could’ve been a disaster when nature called unexpectedly, but instead, it turned into a hilarious origin story. Their ability to bond over awkward moments and turn a near-catastrophe into a lifetime of love had readers rooting for them from start to finish.

I Had a Crush on My Customer

This Love Life story had all the makings of a rom-com. A love of cake parfait led to a chance meeting, and the buyer-to-customer love trope left readers swooning. Lighthearted and sweet, it’s the perfect story to revisit when you’re in the mood for something charming and fun.

Love Life: I Fell in Love With My Childhood Friend

Tade and Sonia’s story taught us that sometimes, love needs distance to grow. Their journey from platonic childhood friends to life partners—complete with swindled parents and secret meet-ups—had our readers grinning and swooning in equal measure.

Love Life: His Dad Doesn’t Like Me, But I’m the Love of His Life

This story was as emotional as it was sweet and inspiring. From childhood best friends to forbidden lovers who found their way back to each other, Charles and Jamal’s journey through love, prejudice, and healing is a testament to the power of a safe and supportive relationship.

Love Life: I Didn’t Kiss All Frogs Before I Found My Prince Charming

Is it possible to skip the heartbreak and still find true love? James and Motun proved it is. Their journey from spiritual mentor and mentee to married couple gave readers a lot to think about. Their ability to overcome family disapproval and societal expectations showed that true love doesn’t always follow a conventional path.

Love Life: Nigeria Should Let Us Marry in Peace

If you’re looking for a love story that’ll make you hopeful and angry at the same time, Nduka and Ene’s is it. Their story highlights the everyday struggles and triumphs of queer couples in Nigeria. However, with surprising family support and plans for kids despite societal restrictions, this couple reminded readers that determination can defy even the harshest laws of the land.

Love Life: My Friends Think I’m a Fool for Dating an Upcoming Musician

Tobi and Tare’s story is for anyone who’s ever loved someone against all odds. Between a hustling musician’s chaotic lifestyle and naysayers claiming she’s being played, their relationship shows the beauty of staying true to each other and blocking out the noise. Las las, the heart wants what it wants.

Love Life: We Haven’t Seen Physically in Six Years

Six years, two continents, and endless video calls—Basil and Nnenna’s relationship is a masterclass in how to do long-distance love. With Zoom dinner dates and unwavering commitment, they proved that love doesn’t need proximity to thrive—just two people willing to try. This is one of those stories that left readers wondering if they’re brave enough for such love.

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And they have these Nigerian couples to thank for reminding them that they’re still far from finding true love. 

Veekee James and Femi

Veekee James and Femi met through a mutual friend, and after nearly two years of dating, they decided to make a lifelong commitment. They had their traditional ceremony on February 9, followed by a grand white wedding at the Harvesters International Christian Centre the next day.

Veekee’s $30,000 diamond and pearl-encrusted wedding gown was one for the books. Nancy Isime, Toke Makinwa, and Eniola Adeoluwa, among others, were at the wedding.

Wofai Fada and Taiwo Cole

Arguably one of the most controversial weddings of 2024, Wofai Fada and Taiwo Cole’s union wasn’t just about the glamour—it came with its fair share of drama. Shortly after their stunning pre-wedding photos went live, Taiwo’s family released an official letter distancing themselves from the marriage. To make matters worse, a viral voice note allegedly from Taiwo’s father claimed the groom hadn’t completed the necessary family rites to legitimise the union. Despite the chaos, the couple tied the knot in May, solidifying their love story under the hashtag #TWO2.

Dimma Umeh and Obinna

Beauty and lifestyle YouTuber Dimma Umeh set the internet on fire in June when she shared her wedding photos online. The influencer married her soulmate, Obinna, in a private civil ceremony in July.

“Got legally married to my lover last month. Everything was beautiful and went just as we’d hoped. It was the civil wedding of my dreams tbh, and I’m grateful to God for how perfect it was,” Dimma wrote on IG.

The couple followed up with a traditional wedding ceremony in August in Enugu.

Davido and Chioma

Davido and Chioma had internet users running from page to page to keep up with updates from their official wedding hashtag, #CHIVIDO. The two exchanged vows on June 25 in a strictly by invitation ceremony at the Harbour Point Event Centre.

At the end of the carnival-like ceremony, the internet had just one question for the couple, “Why didn’t they get a bigger space?”

Salem King and Jesi Damina

In April, Nigerian content creator Salem King and singer-songwriter Jesi Damina surprised the internet with a soft launch wedding announcement that no one saw coming. The couple had everyone in a chokehold with their wedding hashtag, #SKJD24. The ceremony was like a mini-reunion for content creators, with some of the biggest names in the industry showing up to celebrate their love.

Kunle Remi and Boluwatiwi

A together-forever might not have happened with his onscreen boo, Bimbo Ademoye, but Kunle Remi pulled a “They never me coming” on us when he married Otedola’s niece.

The Nollywood actor and his partner, Boluwatiwi, tied the knot in a stunning two-day ceremony that combined traditional and white wedding celebrations. Bimbo Ademoye, Bisola Aiyeola, and many Nollywood folks joined the couple to celebrate their union.

Moses Bliss and Marie

Moses Bliss and his fiancée, Marie Wiseborn, tied the knot in March 2024.

The sweetest part of this union? The gospel singer released an EP, “Love Testament”, just before the wedding, and it set the perfect emotional tone for the wedding ceremony—goals for real.

Yhemo Lee and Thayour

When nightlife entrepreneur and socialite Yhemo Lee married his longtime partner, Oyindamola (aka Thayour), in August, it was nothing short of a show-stopping event. True to his larger-than-life persona, he transformed his wedding into a carnival-style extravaganza that had Lagos buzzing. With A-list celebrities, socialites, and city big shots in attendance, the hashtag #ThayLeeForever trended for days.

Sharon Ooja and Ugo Nwoke

Nollywood sweetheart Sharon Ooja dated her boo for two and a half months, and it was just about enough time for them to switch things up.

Sharon and Ugo tied the knot in a star-studded traditional ceremony on June 27, 2024, followed by a grand white wedding two days later. The ceremony happened a few days after #CHIVIDO.

Priscilla and Juma Jux

Although some people thought their engagement announcement was a PR stunt, it’s safe to say the influencer and her Tanzanian boo are walking down the aisle later this year or sometime in 2024.

Priscilla’s mum, Iyabo Ojo, never misses an opportunity to remind everyone that the wedding party is coming soon. Fingers crossed!

Taye 9ja and Toni Tones

Nigerian content creators Taye 9ja and Toni Tones had their internet fans teary-eyed after they got engaged in June. Tones returned to quote a 2022 post in which she tweeted, “I’ve met my future husband, guys. I’m going to retweet this tweet one day and quote “I knew it”…because yeah.”

They’re walking the aisle this year, and the internet in-laws are hyped AF.

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From losing over 30kg to impress a crush, to discovering a partner’s impotency post-marriage, these Love Life stories of 2024 took us through the full spectrum of “God, when?” to “God forbid!” While some left readers clutching their pearls, others offered thoughtful insights into the complexities of modern relationships.

1. I Lost Over 30kg Just So I Could Approach Him

This Love Life story broke the internet in March, as readers couldn’t wrap their heads around the extent of one woman’s obsession. She stalked her crush on social media, completely altered her body image, and essentially moulded herself to fit his perceived ideal. The wildest part? He had no clue about her efforts to insert herself into his life.

2. I’m 11 Years Younger and Pregnant at 20

This story sparked heated debates about age gaps and power dynamics. While some readers sympathised with the young couple navigating an unexpected pregnancy, others accused the older partner of grooming. The polarising reactions made this one of the most talked-about Love Life stories of the year.

3. We Found Out He Was Impotent After the Wedding

How does a 37-year-old man carry on with no idea that he’s living with erectile dysfunction? That was the question on everyone’s mind after reading Kola and Wunmi’s Love Life. The couple’s 35-year marriage was defined by infertility, secrecy, and a culture that forced them to lie about adopting their children. This story highlights the importance of conversations around sexual health in relationships.

4. Our Marriage Was a Mistake

Infidelity, broken trust, and a marriage on the verge of collapse—this Love Life story was an emotional rollercoaster. What stood out for readers was how Joke’s mum unexpectedly became the glue holding her daughter’s marriage together. The honesty of their struggles also made it a relatable story.

5. We Strongly Believe in Different Religions

What’s the secret to a successful interfaith relationship? For John and Funmi, it’s intentionality and mutual respect. Their story inspired readers with its lessons on balancing religious differences without letting them overshadow love. It’s a reminder that love isn’t always easy, but it can be worth the effort.

6. It’s My Second Marriage, and He’s 13 Years Younger

Love, business, and surrogacy—Aina and Leke’s unconventional relationship defied expectations and inspired readers to rethink traditional norms. Their story showed that love doesn’t always follow a rulebook, and sometimes, embracing the unexpected can lead to the most fulfilling relationships.

7. We Had Divorce Regret, So We Remarried

This Love Life felt like the real-life version of Katy Perry’s “The One That Got Away”. After a painful breakup, this couple found their way back to each other, proving that second chances can be worth it. Their story resonated deeply, offering lessons on healing, growth, and enduring love.

8. Our Relationship Is 95% Sex Vibes

Think friends with benefits on steroids, and you’ll understand why this Love Life had readers hooked. This couple prioritised physical intimacy over emotional connection, redefining what modern relationships can look like. Their openness provided a masterclass on boundaries and communication in unconventional relationships.

9. It’s Been Nine Years, and I Still Can’t Keep Up With Her Libido

Steven and Ore’s story was equal parts funny and thought-provoking. Their candidness about mismatched libidos sparked conversations about sexual compatibility and the compromises couples make for love. The key takeaway? Always have the sex talk before saying “I do.”

10. I Had a Crush on My Customer

This Love Life story had all the makings of a rom-com. A love of cake parfait led to a chance meeting, and the buyer-to-customer love trope left readers swooning. Lighthearted and sweet, it’s the perfect story to revisit when you’re in the mood for something charming and fun.

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What’s your earliest memory of each other?

Jamal: It was when my dad asked me to help Charles unload their car when his family moved into the neighbourhood. This was in 2006.

I didn’t have a lot of kids my age in the area, so I’d been anticipating their arrival since my dad told me we had a new neighbour with a son my age. Charles didn’t say much that day; he just stood beside us as we carried boxes into their house.

Charles: I remember that day. I was relieved to see someone my age because I’d thrown a tantrum when my parents announced our move. I didn’t like leaving my friends behind and moving to a strange, new place. But Jamal looked so cool that day; he had this blue Spiderman shirt I’d always wanted. There was also the fact that he got along with my parents, and it signalled to me that they would approve of our friendship. However, I thought he was doing too much when he carried stuff into our house. 

Jamal: I was only doing what my dad asked, but going inside your house was a bit nosy. 

Seeing that you became instant pals, what was your friendship like as kids? 

Charles: We were inseparable. I was home for about three months because my parents wanted me to enroll in a government school, and the process took forever. I was home and bored, but thankfully, they didn’t mind me going to Jamal’s house when he returned from school.

Jamal: He was always around. He’d follow me to play football, hang out with friends, or just loiter in front of my house.

Charles: I kind of idolised Jamal. He was outspoken, knew the adults in the neighbourhood, and had this confidence I admired. Being his friend made me feel included and seen, which was everything for a quiet kid like me. Those were some of my happiest childhood moments.

Jamal: But something happened a year later that changed our relationship.

Charles: Yeah, I still remember that. 

Please tell me more

Jamal: Charles had finally enrolled in my school because his parents worried he was wasting too much time at home. We went to school separately in the mornings but returned home together. Then we’d hang out at my place or his until our parents returned from work.

One day, we were hanging out at my house after school. We’d just pulled off our uniforms to change into play clothes, and we decided to wrestle while we were down to our pants. I’m not sure who pulled whose pants first, but we got butt-naked and continued grinding against each other. 

Charles: In the middle of that, I got an erection. Jamal found it funny and was playfully touching my penis when his dad walked in on us. I’ll never forget the pure rage on his face. He started shouting, calling us names we didn’t understand and gave us a good beating before we dressed up and he sent me back home. 

Jamal: He reported me to my mum and older siblings and they also started their round of admonishment. My mum tried to dismiss it as boys being boys, but my dad wasn’t having it. Since she didn’t want to offend him, she joined in speaking against it and warned me not to go to Charles’ place again.

Was it that serious?

Jamal: My parents are Muslims. Even though they’re not overly spiritual, they have strong morals and values. My dad saw the situation as two boys engaging in something sexual, so he didn’t take it lightly.

Charles: I mean, I felt some excitement when we were grinding against each other, which led to my erection. Other than that, I didn’t think much of it. 

Jamal: It was the first time I’d see another person’s erect penis, and  it was just funny to me. But my dad’s reaction made me realise that what we’d done was something society considered wrong. I was scared to even think about it after that.

I see. What happened after that day?

Jamal: Everything changed. My dad banned us from seeing each other and made it clear to Charles’ parents that I wasn’t welcome in their house anymore. Then a few months later, my family moved, so we didn’t even get to process what happened.

Charles: I didn’t get a lot of tongue-lashing. My parents tried to talk to Jamal’s dad, but after they noticed his parents were keeping him away, they warned me to stay in our house. 

We still played together in school, but we started to go home separately. One day, I didn’t see him in school or at home, and that was how I learned they’d moved.

Do you think your parents move because of this incident, Jamal?

Jamal: I don’t think so. My dad always wanted a bigger space and had been eyeing the Island for years. But looking back, the incident might have sped things up.

Right. So, when did you two reconnect?

Charles: We didn’t see each other again until 2021, at university. I’d tried to find Jamal on social media, but he was nowhere. It was like he’d disappeared.

Jamal: I wasn’t on social media. I didn’t even have a phone with internet access until I got into university. My dad was strict and didn’t believe in giving kids fancy gadgets.

Charles: I’d just gained admission when I randomly bumped into Jamal at the campus café. At first, I wasn’t sure it was him—it had been over a decade. But he walked up to me, and it was him.

Jamal: I couldn’t believe it either. We were kids the last time I saw Charles. But here he was, all grown up, with a beard and muscles. He also spoke in a posh way, and I  I thought, “Did this guy travel abroad?” 

 We spent the rest of the day catching up, and it felt like no time had passed. I learned he’d just gained admission and was still in the middle of registration. I also offered to let him stay with me until he sorted out his accommodation. 

Charles: I was so relieved. It was like God answered my prayers. I remember I’d been caving under the stress of registration and looking for an apartment. I was staying with an unwelcoming cousin, so when Jamal said I could stay with him, I jumped at the offer. It was only supposed to be for a week or two, but it’s been years.

But wait. How easy was it to rebuild your friendship after all those years apart?

Charles: It was surprisingly easy. Jamal helping me settle into school and offering me a place to stay played a considerable role. Apart from my cousin, he was the only familiar face on campus.

Jamal: Being around Charles again felt natural. I admit I’d made assumptions because of how he spoke, but after a few weeks together, I knew he wasn’t trying to pretend. I later found out he was studying Mass Communication, so it made sense. Outside of that he was my good friend from years ago. 

Did you both talk about the event from your childhood?

Charles:  It came up naturally during one of our late-night conversations. I was curious to know if Jamal had thought about it over the years, especially since it was such a defining moment for me.

Jamal: At first, it wasn’t easy to talk about. That day was one of the most traumatic experiences of my childhood, but it was also a moment of discovery.

Discovery?

Jamal: It made me realise I was different, even if I didn’t have the words for it back then. I knew I felt something for Charles beyond friendship, but my dad’s reaction made me bury those feelings. I spent years convincing myself I wasn’t gay, but I began to understand my sexuality better in secondary school.

Charles: For me, it was similar but less about repression. I’d always felt a pull toward boys, even as a kid. I didn’t feel ashamed  until the adults got involved. Their reactions made it seem like something was wrong with me.

Jamal: When we finally talked about it, it felt like a weight had been lifted. I told Charles how scared I was after my dad walked in, but I also admitted that I’d thought about him often over the years.

Charles: I told him the same. I never forgot about him. Talking about it helped us process what happened and brought us closer.

When did things shift from friendship to romance?

Jamal: It happened slowly. Reconnecting with Charles brought back a lot of feelings I’d buried for years. I’d spent so long convincing myself I wasn’t attracted to men due to how I was raised, but being around him again made me realise I was still drawn to him. I admitted these feelings to myself but not to him.  Honestly, I don’t know why.

Charles: The attraction was always there. Even before we reconnected, I knew what I wanted and who I was. During the years we weren’t in touch, I embraced my sexuality fully. I dated, met people on dating apps, and lived my truth in ways Jamal hadn’t.

Jamal, when did you start embracing your sexuality?

Jamal: It was after Charles and I started spending more time together. Seeing how confident he was made me question why I’d been hiding for so long. 

I grew up in a very religious household, and the shame was deeply ingrained. But Charles was patient with me. He never pushed; he just made it clear that I was safe with him.

Charles: Honest conversations about our experiences during our time apart helped. I shared my journey—how I’d come out to myself, experimented, and learned to love who I was. Jamal opened up about how he’d suppressed his feelings, and it broke my heart to hear his struggles.

Jamal: These conversations ultimately led to a pivotal moment.  One night, we were laying in bed, talking about our childhood, and I reached out to hold his hand. It wasn’t even sexual at first, but before I knew it, we kissed. It wasn’t planned, but it felt so natural, like something that had been waiting to happen for years.

Charles: It was an intimate moment. It was like all the walls Jamal had built were starting to come down.

I understand

Charles:  We didn’t define anything right away, but everything changed after that night. We started holding hands privately, stealing kisses, and becoming more open about our feelings.

Jamal: It was an adjustment for me. I’d never been with a man before, so there was a lot to process emotionally. But Charles was patient. It also helped that we didn’t put a tag on our relationship. We were just a safe space for each other, and I trusted him completely.

At what point did you define your relationship?

Jamal:  There wasn’t a formal “asking out” moment; it just happened naturally. One day, I realised Charles wasn’t just my best friend—he was my partner.

Charles: We both knew without saying it.

Jamal, do your parents know about Charles?

Jamal: Yes, they do. My dad has always been very observant of the people I bring home. At first, he seemed fine with Charles. He was polite, asked about his family, and occasionally joked around when they first met.

That’s surprising, considering the history

Jamal: He didn’t realise Charles was that kid from years ago. Charles didn’t say much during the visit, and I introduced him as my old school friend who had just moved back to town. My dad didn’t connect the dots.

Charles: I tried to keep a low profile. I was nervous about meeting Jamal’s dad again after what happened when we were kids. So I didn’t want to draw too much attention to myself.

Jamal: But then, during one of Charles’ visits, my dad overheard him talking with my siblings, and that’s when it clicked for him. He called me into his room and asked, “Is that the same boy from our former house?” I couldn’t lie, so I told him the truth.

How did he react?

Jamal: His mood shifted almost immediately. He didn’t say much to Charles for the rest of the visit, and after he left, my dad told me he didn’t think it was a good idea to have him around. He said, “I don’t trust that boy. I thought I made myself clear years ago.”

Charles: He was a completely different person the next time I came over. He barely greeted me and spent the whole time giving me cold, disapproving looks. It was uncomfortable.

Has he ever confronted you directly, Charles?

Charles: Not outrightly, but his body language says it all. One time, I came to drop off something for Jamal, and his dad didn’t even let me inside the house. He said, “Thank you,” grabbed the package, and shut the door in my face.

Jamal: It’s been tense since. My dad doesn’t explicitly forbid me from seeing Charles, but his disapproval is obvious. Every time Charles comes around, he makes it clear he’s not welcome. I wonder what the situation would be if he ever finds out we’re more than friends. 

Now that you mention it, what do you think is the future of this relationship, with Nigeria’s anti-LGBTQ laws?

Charles: We think about it all the time. We’ve talked about moving abroad where we can live freely and without fear, but we can’t afford it right now.

Jamal: We’re focused on making it work here, but it’s not easy. We’re constantly aware of how dangerous a relationship like ours is in this country. Knowing some laws criminalise our love is scary, but we’re committed to each other.

Do you have a support system here? Friends or family who make things easier?

Charles: Yes, we’ve been fortunate to find a small but close-knit community of friends who support and understand what we’re going through. It’s not just about being queer; it’s about finding people who value and respect us as individuals.

Jamal: Some of our friends are queer, and others are allies who  have our backs. Knowing we have people we can turn to makes a huge difference. For example, a friend lets us hang out at his house when we need a safe space to spend time together away from school.

Charles: I have a cousin who knows about us and has been incredibly supportive. She’s among the few family members I trust enough to share this part of my life with. She checks in on me regularly and even helps us with small things, like covering up when my parents ask too many questions about where I’m spending my time.

What about your family, Jamal? 

Jamal: Not really, but I have a younger sibling who’s more open-minded. We’ve never explicitly talked about my relationship with Charles, but they’ve made comments suggesting they’d accept if I ever told them the truth.

Charles: Having small pockets of support helps, but we know it’s not the same as full acceptance. That’s why we’re also careful. Even within our community, we’re selective about who we let in.

Jamal: Beyond that, we try to create a safe space in our relationship. Whether it’s cooking together, binge-watching shows, or just laying in bed and talking, those little moments remind us why we’re doing this—why it’s worth it to keep going despite the challenges.

Charles: Ultimately, we know we need to leave Nigeria to build a future together without constantly looking over our shoulders. It’s not an easy decision, but we’re working toward it step by step.

On a scale of 1 to 10, how would you rate your love life?

Jamal: I’d give it a 7. Charles makes me feel seen and safe, even when the world feels hostile. But I’d be lying if I said external pressures—like my dad’s disapproval and the constant need to hide—don’t weigh on us.

Charles: For me, it’s an 8. Jamal is kind, supportive, and everything I’ve ever wanted in a partner. I just wish we could experience the freedom other couples have without fear. But even with those challenges, it’s worth it being with him.

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If you think you went through a lot in 2024, you’ve probably not had a heart-to-heart with the single people in your circle. Trust me, they saw shege in 3D. And while we can’t help them get the justice they deserve, we can at least start by calling out the “relationship experts” who are making things worse.

These people need to be stopped ASAPingly.

Nons Miraj

I unintentionally stumbled on her show, The Huntgames, a matchmaking series that claims to help single people find their soulmates. At first, I thought, “Well, this is a good thing.” Then the horror show began.

Many episodes have men serving misogyny on a platter while the ladies let it slide, and the host just laughs it off like it’s casual banter. By the end, you’re left wondering if the goal is to help people find love or simply watch single people embarrass themselves on Obasanjo’s internet.

Lege Miami

Every Instagram live video he posts is worse than the last. And while his poor use of English is always a valid enough reason to make you log off, it’s unfortunately the least of his crimes.

This self-proclaimed matchmaker spends more time hurling heavy curses at his guests than actually helping them, leaving you wondering if his platform is a haven for people with humiliation kinks. Clearly, no one is there for true love or any semblance of romantic desires.

Blessing CEO

Honestly, if you’re taking relationship advice from someone who tags herself “Queen of Clout,” maybe true love isn’t what you deserve.

Blessing CEO is infamous for her social media antics and thirst for drama, but somehow she’s convinced her followers she knows the ways of Cupid. Take her advice at your own risk, but know this: your relationship doesn’t stand a chance.

Skuki Peeshun

Of everyone on this list, Skuki Peeshaun is the only one who sometimes offers relationship advice that might actually help you bag or keep the love of your life.

But let’s be real, when was the last time you heard Afrobeats lyrics as chaotic as “She say make I pump her back like a forkanizer”? It’s time for him to hang up his relationship hat and return to making music. The singles will be okay.

Esabod

You might not know her, but if your parents or aunties have access to social media, chances are they do.

Esabod is the auntie/uncle-era relationship guru you didn’t ask for, and she’s probably the reason your 65-year-old granny is talking about “spicing things up” in ways that are not pleasing to big daddy’s gbola. Her dangerously adventurous advice needs to stop if we want to keep our elderly loved ones around a little longer.

Saida Boj

To be fair, she doesn’t claim to be a relationship expert. But if you’ve ever seen her videos, you know she’s teaching women how to dig for gold like it’s a professional sport.

She even has a song called Gold Diggers. God, abeg. While her gospel of “money over everything” might land you cash cow cosplaying as a lover boy, do you honestly think it’ll lead you to the love of your life?

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